You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

Hakim Tafari is a Buddhist Scholar and Mindfulness Teacher. He has collaborated with notable brands that include Nike, Adidas, Lululemon, Jaybird, Whoop, and Google to name a few, bridging an intersection between mindfulness, sports, and social justice. But beyond the titles, this is the most open hearted, loving man I have ever met. His heart is that of a man who aliveness is the consequence of having died a thousand deaths on the path to inner liberation. What a magical conversation this was, and I feel honored to be sharing it with you. Follow Hakim: https://www.instagram.com/hakstao/?hl=en Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=en Follow You Choose on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:21 The Seven Awakening Factors 02:14 How to See Your Life in 4K 04:42 Energy That Doesn't Come From Coffee 07:49 Losing His Marriage, Home, and Kids 11:19 He Chose to Sit Facing a Wall For an Hour 21:16 Why Rock Bottom is a Powerful Place 22:35 The Four…

What if the thing you’re most afraid to say out loud is the very thing that would save you? I opened this conversation with a line from the Gospel of Thomas: “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” Preston's response was exactly what I didn't know I needed. Preston has spent two decades as a transformational coach, speaker and author. He is a father of four, and for more than a decade he’s led The Bridge Experience alongside his wife, Alexi. For Preston, bringing forth what’s within you isn’t only about your purpose or your mission. It’s moment to moment. It’s the first hit in your body, and whether you act on it or talk yourself out of it. Every time you override it, you erode trust within yourself. So in this conversation we went looking for it. We talked about how we were trained from childhood to outsource our power to our parents, our teachers and our priests long before we…

I left this conversation more inspired, uplifted and connected to the texture of my existence than I have felt in a long time.IN-Q is an emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, and best-selling author.This is an intimate window into his creative process, the perspective he adopts to create meaningful art, and a live demonstration of a few poems, both his and mine, that have touched the lives of many. It was a pinch me moment to have the opportunity to sit across from and read poetry to a man who has been the core icon I have looked to for inspiration when translating my world into words. I believe you will be touched by this conversation, and if you are, please let me know. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that offer you a deeper sense of belonging to yourself and the world. It is an honor to have you tuning in. You belong here. - Billy xFollow IN-Q: https://www.instagram.com/inqlife/?hl=enFollow Billy:…

Brendan, the founder of Santa Cruz Medicinals, may be the most influential voice in the world for young men right now. He walks down the street and cars pull over so kids can yell "Santa Cruz!" out the window. He funds his own content, he doesn't take the gambling money, and he shows people exactly how he lives. I didn't sit down with him to talk about supplements. I wanted to talk about the inside of a young man's life, because I believe that's where the real crisis is. The loneliness. A dating world that feels rigged. A brain so cooked by the scroll that it feels nothing and everything at the same time. We spoke about larping, looksmaxxing, mogging, mewing, monk mode, rage baiting, sexual market value, AI girlfriends, sports betting and the manosphere itself. A few of his answers surprised me! If you're a young man who feels stuck, lonely, or like the game is rigged against you, this one is for you. And if you love one, send it to him. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and…

You are under no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday. These are Charlie Rocket's recipes for reinvention. Not many are more qualified to speak on this than Charlie. He got fired twice in the music business, then went on to manage 2 Chainz. At 29, he was 300 pounds with a brain tumor. Nine months later, he was a Nike athlete. He then left that world behind to build a multinational charitable organization called the Dream Machine Foundation, where he travelled the country making people's dreams come true. He has since established himself as a global speaker, and in this episode talks openly about his next phase of reinvention: becoming a NYT Bestselling Author. He is a testament to the power of delusional optimism, as well as the profound humility to begin again, time and time again. His life is vibrant because he has been willing to choose again when his spirit longs for something new, and this conversation invites you into the 'how' behind it all. Enjoy :-) Follow Charlie:…

Grayson Hart had the life we're all told to want. Professional Rugby player, founder of a company worth millions, a wife on the cover of magazines...and he burned it all down in the name of truth.This a public sharing of what years of devotion to truth, authenticity, and the courage to be who you are will afford you.It won't be comfortable, but comfort is never what your soul wanted anyway. Comfort is why you're deeply uncomfortable. As the age old saying goes: The truth will set you free.I KNOW this conversation will touch many people, as it did me. There is nothing more important to a fulfilling life than honoring what's true, even and especially when that truth hurts to admit.Enjoy, and let us know by subscribing and commenting if you do :-)Follow Grayson: https://www.instagram.com/graysonjonhart/Check out Hart Workshop: https://hartworkshop.com/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters:0:00 Introduction1:35 We Are Not Separate 2:55 The Paradox of Belonging5:05 All You Have to Do Is…

This may be my favorite conversation we've had on the show so far. Koa Smith is a professional surfer who made a name for himself chasing the biggest and most beautiful waves on earth and capturing them on camera. His career and life was dramatically altered when a collision with a reef caused a traumatic brain injury. He lost his memory, sense of self and fell into a deep depression. This is a conversation on identity, on intimacy, and on integrity. It's about learning to feel again, dissolving the illusion of separate between you and another, but also between you and everything you desire. There aren't many people more equipped to talk about death, about discovering inner peace amidst chaos, and about learning how to find purpose in life again. We talk about 3 rules for life that were given to him by a shaman, 2 words that keep you from having what you desire, and 1 way of being (Hint: trying to figure it out) that keeps us in endless suffering. We also deep dive on the modalities that have changed his…

Does God exist? Are all these Christian people genuine? Is Christianity the way? Are SSRIs and antidepressants harmful? What even is depression? Can I out-will the algorithm? How can I retrain myself to focus? If any of these sound like questions you are asking, give the next 97 minutes your full attention. Elliot Bewick is a 21 year old atheist and the host of The Next Generation, a podcast for...you guessed it. I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world. The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Never stop or change prescribed medication without speaking to your doctor. Follow Elliot - https://www.instagram.com/elliotbewick…

If you have ever looked at a man you love and wondered what is actually going on in there, watch this. If you are raising a boy and you can feel the internet reaching him faster than you can, watch this. If you are still carrying something left unsaid with your own father, watch this for the way through. And if you're a man who has done years of work on himself and still feels broken, watch this. There is a way back...and it isn't more discipline. Adam Jackson is the cofounder of the largest men's work organization in the world, Sacred Sons. Over 20,000 men have made their way through the Sacred Sons programming. There are few people more equipped to talk about men than this man. Expect to learn why combat is important for men, what twenty thousand men have actually admitted to him behind closed doors, why he doesn't fully trust men and what he means by that, the most important parts of manhood, of fatherhood, and of true intimacy in relationships. This is a timely message for anyone with a boy or. man in…

If you are like me and have spent the majority of your life not feeling at home inside your own skin, this conversation is for you. Jules Horn spent over a decade as THE model. Chanel in Paris with Karl Lagerfeld. Magazine covers with Nicki Minaj holding his photo. Dinner tables with with A-list sitting next to him. Yet he calls that entire chapter a bird in a golden cage. He was blackout drunk most weekends, burned out flat in bed for days every couple of months, chasing one campaign for ten years that never came, monitoring every way of being in the world in case an agent didn't like his hair. Today, he helps people release the tension that they have carried in their fascia for decades, retrain their nervous system for safety and find a comfortable home inside their own skin. Jules showed me the perfect way to breathe, we talked about releasing anger and rage, where most people carry tension and how to release it, the rediscovery of God and how he accesses the divine within him. We also shine light on the…

If your parents are still alive, watch this for a time sensitive message. If they aren't, watch this for your own current or future children. If neither of those are true, watch this to touch that beautiful place inside of you that is connected to everything. There are questions I've held about my father, about his first marriage, about who he was before he was my dad, that I have not had the courage to ask. Not because I don't want to know, but because there has always been more time. This conversation woke me up. Michael Smoak didn't have more time. He had 7 months to both ask and deliver everything to his father before it was over. Today, we went to the places most people spend an entire life avoiding. The exact questions to ask your parents before it's too late, the two moments that made God undeniable to him, why your father was once a little boy full of fears and dreams and what changes in you the second you remember that, the reason he never missed a single post while his dad was dying, the six things…

I’ve never been this vulnerable publicly… 3 years ago I sat in my local library feeling deeply lost. My life seemed to be crumbling before my eyes and I felt confined to a world I was no longer choosing. I made a declaration that day that there was one person I would be coached by, and I’d find a way to get myself in the room with him. Well, 3 years on, having consumed virtually all of his content, invested in his life altering mastermind and shared his work and words with everyone in my life, it is an absolute honor to share this conversation I had with Peter Crone. Widely known as ‘The Mind Architect’, Peter is globally recognized for his ability to help someone reveal the deep, subconscious constraints that have laced their life, and support them in freeing themselves from the mental prisons with which they’ve been confined, so they can lead a life of freedom, love, abundance and possibility. Today, we revealed the primary prisons I’ve been living inside of, how the world is not set up to see us succeed,…

Everyone is trying to hack, optimize and comfort their way to a better life. Laird Hamilton says the opposite is true: that comfort is the trap, that fear is intelligence, and that the closer you get to death, the more alive you become.Laird Hamilton is widely regarded as the greatest big-wave surfer of all time, the pioneer of tow-in surfing and hydrofoil boarding who redefined what's possible in the ocean. He is the co-founder of Laird Superfood, husband of volleyball legend Gabby Reece for 28 years, and father to three daughters.He explains:◼ Why the closer you are to death, the more alive you feel◼ How a lifetime in the ocean convinced him that God exists◼ The one thing he believes is worse than dying◼ Why fear is intelligence, and how to harness it instead of avoiding it◼ Why parenting is like building a samurai sword, and why it's for you, not your kids◼ He opens up about growing up poor, fatherless and an outsider, and how that pain fueled everything he builtThe views expressed are those of the guest,…

Strap in for this one folks!At nine years old, Jeremy Jackson beat Leonardo DiCaprio for the role of Hobie Buchanan on Baywatch — the most watched television show on the planet. A billion people knew his face before he could drive. What followed was two decades most people don't come back from: addiction, meth, arrests, facing up to 35 years in prison, and a public collapse narrated by everyone except him. Today, Jeremy is sober, a recovery coach, breathwork facilitator, and spiritual mentor who walks into the rehabs and jails he once occupied — carrying the message to the people still lost in the places he came back from.One line that stuck with me: "If you want God to write the love story of your life, stop taking the pen out of his hand."This conversation goes somewhere neither of us expected. Jeremy speaks for the first time at length about the marriage that gutted him deeper than anything in his life — deeper than the abuse, the kidnapping, the arrests — and the moment he chose to see the person who…

Have you ever been honest enough to rate yourself as a man?Timmy Bishop — known to the world as Timmy the Dreamer — spent three years living what looked like the dream: managing one of the biggest philanthropic movements on the internet, working alongside Mr. Beast and Oprah, living in a Hollywood Hills content mansion. Then, in December 2023, he got in a boat and rode two hours down the Amazon River to a ceremony that dismantled his entire life. He has never told this story publicly. Until now.A few lines that stuck with me:"If everything I did in private could be seen by everybody in public, would I still be who I say I am? The answer was no.""Not even the medicine could make me release. That's how disconnected I was from being able to feel.""In order to be ready for a queen to walk into your life, you must first make yourself into a king."In this conversation, Timmy shares — for the first time — the ayahuasca ceremony that told him to leave his dream life in LA and move back in with his parents in…

When did your life start feeling so boring? Alaina Booth has built a following by pointing her camera at something the internet keeps telling us no longer exists: proof that the world is still good. She is a director, videographer, and storyteller whose found-footage videos of strangers, community, and everyday human connection have reached millions — including a series about six generations of women who all lived in the same college house, and a caption that accidentally started a war in her comments: "But what if most people are good?" A few lines that stuck with me: "Courage is a moment of decision where you say, I'm going to trust myself and try something new." "There is no amount of good energy that is ever wasted." "The easiest way to connect with someone is to expect nothing from them." "Never compromise who you are to get closer to the top of the mountain." In this conversation, we explore why life starts to feel boring the moment we automate the play out of it, why the top of courage is simply being…

What would you do if you woke up tomorrow and the world had gone silent? Eight months ago, that's exactly what happened to Blu. After 34 years of hearing, she went deaf overnight — and instead of becoming a victim of the experience, she calls it the most sacred teacher of her life. Blu is an artist, mystic, and storyteller. Alongside her creative partner Lily Ashwell, she spent three and a half years hand-crafting "Heavenly Bodies Tarot" — a tarot deck of 78 original artworks made entirely by human hands, in a world drowning in synthetic noise. She is also the host of the Deja Blu podcast. A few lines from the conversation that stuck with me: "Comfort is the death of the evolution of the soul." "The most sacred thing is what is." "We're running ourselves dry, getting ourselves sick, and wondering why we can't hear God." "It's really inefficient to be an asshole." and...my overwhelming favorite: "The only disability is that of a bad attitude" (original quote from Scott Hamilton) In this conversation, we…

Something is wrong with men. Not in the way the culture keeps telling us. Not too aggressive, not too dominant, not too much. Wrong in a quieter and far more devastating way. The boy inside never grew up. And nobody noticed. Nobody held a ceremony. Nobody said, that chapter of your life is over, this one begins now. So he kept going. Built the career. Got the girl. Accumulated the evidence. And still woke up every morning feeling like something essential was missing and having absolutely no language for why.Ryan Moresby-White noticed. And he has spent the last decade doing something about it.Born in South Africa, raised in Australia, Ryan walked away from a successful construction career after a breakup cracked him open in a way he didn't expect and couldn't ignore. What he found on the other side became his life's work. Today he has sat with thousands of men at the edge of themselves and helped them cross a threshold they didn't know they needed to cross.You'll hear:Why men keep sabotaging the women they…

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now. It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Cory Richards is a National Geographic photographer, world class mountaineer, and the first and only American to summit an 8000 meter peak in winter without supplemental oxygen. He was diagnosed bipolar at 15, dropped out of high school, placed in a psychiatric unit, and put on the street with nothing. He went on to build one of the most celebrated careers in adventure photography the world has ever seen. He also almost lost everything multiple times along the way. And a month and a half before this conversation, he didn't leave his bed for days.Is this a meditation on madness? A masterclass on creativity? A loving interrogation of every label, diagnosis, and story you have ever told yourself about who you are? For me, it was all three.One line in particular has not left me since we recorded this. Cory said that being buried and being…

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!! It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Mastin Kipp is a number one best-selling author, speaker and Creator of Functional Life Coaching™ for people who are seeking rapid transformation in their lives. He has been featured on the Emmy Award show, Super Soul Sunday, and recognized as a “thought leader for the next generation” by Oprah Winfrey.Mastin has built a highly successful international personal development company that helps people create rapid change, connect to who they really are and how to live their lives with passion and purpose. Through his writing, online courses, in-person seminars and international retreats, Mastin has worked with over two million people in over 100 countries around the world.Oprah recently also named Mastin “one of 100 awakened leaders who are using their voices and talent to elevate humanity,” alongside other teachers such as Tony Robbins,…

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!This is a solo episode. No guest. Just me, a microphone, and one of the most important conversations of our time.Your parents hurt you. That is real. That pain is valid. And this episode is not here to dismiss it. But it is here to ask you a harder question. At what point does the blame that once protected you become the very thing that is keeping you from the life you say you want?I speak from personal experience in this one. A mother with heavily narcissistic tendencies. A father who gaslights and evades. A childhood that left me confused, wounded, and looking for answers. And a long, nonlinear journey from denial to villainization to responsibility to something that finally felt like freedom.This episode covers:- Why most people are more committed to proving they were hurt than actually becoming free- The four stages of processing your relationship with your parents- Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting activated- The prison of hope…

If you haven't yet, please subscribe to the show! Three years ago Chris Griffin was broke, heartbroken, and boarding a one way flight to Thailand on a credit card with no plan. Today he has one of the biggest podcasts in Australia, millions of followers, and a clarity about himself that most men spend their entire lives chasing.But the most honest moment in this conversation is not about the success. It is about the season when he had millions of fans and no one to call. When he had changed five friend groups in two years and finally had to ask himself the question most men are too proud to ask. Is it them or is it me?In this conversation Billy and Chris go deep on: The real difference between confidence and ego and why most men have it backwards Why naivety and delusion are not weaknesses but the only fuel that gets you through what you cannot yet see How the $200 million thought experiment will permanently change the way you show up today Why people pleasing is secretly serving the belief that you are not…

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!What does it feel like to spend your whole life knowing you're different?This is the primary theme that threads David Siciliano's story.Raised inside a conservative religious community that rewarded conformity and punished curiosity, David spent years collecting shame for simply being wired differently. He went into acting not because he wanted to perform but because it was the only space that let him explore without judgment. He studied psychology at the Ivy League level, went to therapy every week, and slowly pieced together what it actually meant to be himself.In this episode we cover: What it really means to feel other as a man Why the religious shame so many men carry is actually a rebellion against interpretation and not belief How acting teaches you to see your feelings as information rather than identity What David's one year old son River is teaching him about self acceptance Why most parents are unconsciously parenting from their own…

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now! Joshua Church is a Forbes 30 Under 30 founder, author and podcast host who built Edge Theory Labs into a $20 million company in three years — and then watched it fall apart. But this conversation is not about the rise and fall. It is about what the whole journey revealed about the universe, the self, and what it actually means to follow the path you were put here to walk. Joshua weaves together entrepreneurship, spirituality, Jewish faith, breathwork and a lifelong relationship with his own physical body to arrive at something rare — a man who has genuinely learned how to follow the breadcrumbs. In this episode: What it means to build a profitable partnership with the universe Why your job on this earth is smaller than you think How four major surgeries and a near death experience at 19 led Joshua to his life's work The rise and fall of Edge Theory Labs and what the collapse really taught him Why business is the greatest self development course you…

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!Stefanos Sifandos is a behavioral scientist, author and relationship expert who has worked with special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists and world champion fighters. But more than any credential — he is someone who has lived inside the wound he now helps others heal.In this conversation Billy sits down with Stefanos not just as an interviewer, but as a case study of everything Stefanos teaches. This is one of the rawest, most personal conversations you will see online.In this episode: - What mother-son enmeshment actually is and why it is showing up in your adult relationships- Why men who desperately want intimacy keep pushing it away — and what is really happening in the nervous system- Why the work you do outside the argument is the only thing that changes the argument- Billy's own reckoning with shutdown, repressed anger and what happens when sport is no longer the outlet- Why Andrew Tate serves a purpose — and what that says about the men…

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now! Stuart Champion spent years in chronic, debilitating back pain — army-crawling to the bathroom, unable to sit on a plane, unable to visit his family in England. Western medicine offered cortisone injections, surgery, and the promise of a spinal fusion. His body said no. What he found wasn't a hack or a protocol. It was a practice of listening. Stuart is now 44 years old — surfing, playing competitive soccer, and hiking for miles — in better physical shape than he was at 21. This conversation reveals the main reason why. We go deep into the body-mind connection, why most suffering traces back to a nervous system stuck in survival mode, and why the real work of healing isn't doing more — it's slowing down enough to actually feel what's there. In this episode: - Why the root of most suffering is a stressed nervous system in survival mode - How unresolved emotions get stored as physical tension in the body - Stuart's journey from army-crawling at 27 to…

I'm scared. I'm angry. I'm confused. And I'm worried I'm never going to know God. That's how this episode begins... What follows is one of the most honest conversations about faith, spirituality and the search for the divine you'll hear anywhere. Before you read on, if you haven't yet, please subscribe now! Alex Hussain is one of the most honest voices on faith I've ever sat across from. This wasn't a polished theological lecture. This was me, on the record, admitting that every attempt I make to find God feels like an intellectual search that leads nowhere — and asking Alex to help me find a way through. We went everywhere. Religion vs spirituality. Why the church can feel like it's selling certainty instead of creating space for questions. How Alex went six years without feeling God at all. The moment God came back — and what happened in that room. Why your anger at God might actually be the most honest prayer you've ever said. And why the personal development journey is about becoming, but the spiritual…

If you enjoy this episode, please leave us a review and subscribe to the show! This is a masterclass in personal transformation. I believe the greatest compliment I can give to Branden is that he knows what all of us long to know...himself. Expect to hear about the journey of self acceptance, about honoring the process and those who've walked it before you, and the Temple of Mastery that has transformed thousands of lives. What I was most inspired by was Branden's ability to be honest in areas that many of us would tremble and turn from truth. He is embodied because he is true, and that is the place I believe we're all searching for - truth, followed by the courage to embody what's true. Branden Collinsworth is a Nike global performance coach, serial entrepreneur and humanitarian. He founded Warrior Retreats, a rite of passage deep in the heart of the amazon jungle. He has worked 1 on 1 with professional athletes and billionaire clientele to help them find a comfortable place to call home inside of…